It’s been a while since I did a wedding recap, and I realized I left you high and dry on our ceremony! Let’s dive back in!
Bob the Builder and I spent so much time writing our wedding ceremony, but I also think we spent an equal amount of time choosing the music for our entire wedding. I am a very musical person, so that aspect of our wedding was very important to me. Making our musical choices was honestly one of the most fun parts of wedding planning. Bob the Builder and I chose everything together, and we took our time. Sometimes, inspiration would come to us from out of the blue!
There actually is a “science” to it! Here are my top tips for Mastering your Wedding Seating Chart:
Hi Peeps! Today let’s give a super warm welcome to the fabulous Melissa Dell (of MelissaDell.com). She & I took part in a blogger challenge to “Walk A Mile in Each Other’s Shoes” (extra special thanks to AJ of Confessions of a Fat Girl), and these are the fruits of our blogging labor! If you’re curious about what I wrote, check the sidebar for the badge with the cute flats on it!
Take it away, Melissa…
Bob the Builder and I had many children at our wedding. In fact, we had thirteen children under the age of thirteen, two of whom were in our wedding party. And, we did not lose our minds. Here’s how you can have kids at your wedding without losing your mind. Seriously.
1. Set realistic expectations for yourself and for the children. This is the big one, you guys. The children are, well…CHILDREN. And you cannot expect them to sit like quiet little angels all day long. It’s best to prepare yourself way ahead of time that you might hear some crying or whining or flat out yelling during your ceremony. That’s just reality. Even with the most attentive parents, children are gonna do what they’re gonna do. Even if their parents quickly take them out of the room, you will still hear them. Just be ok with it. Or, don’t invite children to your wedding. These are your choices.
Here’s our totally true story. Our flower girl, Lulu B, is my favorite little girl on the planet, and she also happens to be the daughter of one of my best friends on the planet, who was also a bridesmaid.
Lulu and SmartyPants
Did you watch the Oscars last night? If I’m totally honest, I mostly watched just to see Idina Menzel (I mean, Adele Dazeem. Um. Really, John Travolta? WEAR YOUR GLASSES. Or learn the name of the person you are introducing. You’re not new here.) sing “Let it Go” from Frozen. I love her, I love that song, and I can’t help it: I love the FASHION at the Oscars.
There were so many dresses that could really make the transition from red carpet to ceremony aisle.
Photo Credit: E Online
Cristin Milioti, designer uncredited, from How I Met Your Mother. I love HIMYM, and I love her in this dress. This looks like a wedding gown! It also looks like maybe it’s a Reem Acra? or Christos?
Sometimes I get to do super fun things because of this lil’ ‘ole blog, and I have to say, this dinner was the most fun to date! The fine folks at Del Monte invited me & Bob the Builder to host two of our friends in our home for a chef-created meal, using Del Monte products!
Del Monte scheduled our dinner through KitchenSurfing, a great website that matches your needs with a personal chef. You can search by chef name, by cuisine, or by event. Del Monte paired us with Chef Mariko Amekodommo (aka The Pink Hair Chef) and her Del Monte Signature Tuscan Dinner.
The Wedding Ceremony. The Main Event. The Reason for the Season, so to speak.
When I laugh, I REALLY laugh. Apparently, I thought our ceremony was hilarious.
To say the wedding ceremony is an important part of your wedding day is to totally understate the obvious. It is THE reason for the day. It deserves your attention and reverence.
Hi Peeps! I know, it’s been a while! Let’s get back to the wedding recaps, shall we?
When we last left off, Bob the Builder and I had taken some photos around City Hall in Philadelphia, and just made it to our venue, The Down Town Club, as it started to rain…again. This was fine with me, because we also had to rehearse…again.
If you’ve been following along, you know that we rehearsed (and had our rehearsal dinner) the night before. Because The Down Town Club is a busy venue, we were unable to rehearse in the actual space on Friday evening. As Friday night weddings become increasingly more popular, traditional ceremony rehearsals become more tricky. We chose to rehearse in a banquet room at a hotel just down the block (shout out to the great team at Best Western Plus Independence Park Hotel for being super awesome!)
The downside to not rehearsing in your actual venue? Well, you’re not in the actual venue! I measured out our aisle (of course I did, I’m insane…), but still, there was only so much we could re-create in a small banquet room. Also, it proved difficult to get everyone to pay attention at the first rehearsal. So, I was grateful that we had scheduled another walkthrough for 4pm on the wedding day. However, I was very clear with my wedding planner that I did not wish to attend that rehearsal.
Here’s why you need to hire a wedding planner and/or Day-Of-Coordinator. Amanda, from Proud to Plan, was able to run this second rehearsal while I spent a few minutes by myself in the bridal suite. It was seriously the only time all day that I was alone – I wasn’t even alone when I went to the bathroom – so, for me, those few minutes were invaluable. I wanted a few minutes to compose myself and try to “get present”. It wasn’t easy. All day, I was sort of outside myself, looking in. It was difficult for me to relax. I was surprised at how overwhelmed I felt. I was grateful for those few quiet moments.
A rare quiet moment for us before the ceremony. I looks like I’m bracing myself on the table, but I think I’m just stretching my feet. My feet were killing me all day!
I generally don’t like to write negative posts, but since we’ve already talked about 5 Things TO DO Now That You’re Engaged, I thought it was only fair to explore the flip side. So, here we go! Here’s what NOT to do right after you become engaged.
1. DO NOT Overshare on Social Media.
I know I told you to update your social media. But let’s all acknowledge that past the first step of changing your relationship status, there is a lot of room for error. In general, I think it’s a mistake to share every single detail of your wedding on social media. (I know this sounds insane coming from me, because, well, I’m a Blogger…) The reason for this is two-fold. First of all, I doubt your entire Facebook friend list cares about the color of your flowers or the fact that your hands hurt from stuffing 200 invitation envelopes. Even those who love you the most will tire of daily wedding updates. And secondly, I doubt you have invited all your friends to your Big Day. I have over 700 Facebook friends, and I think if I did the math (and I try to never ever do math) I was able to invite less than 10% of them to our wedding. So, it’s rude to discuss a party with those who aren’t invited. End of story.
If you really feel the need to share all the details, join the online communities at Weddingbee or The Knot. Or, start your own blog.
And as far as posting a photo of your ring, I think that’s a personal preference. I didn’t. For me, our engagement wasn’t so much about the ring that I wanted to acknowledge it on Facebook in that way. But many gals do. It’s up to you. No judgement.
2. DO NOT Verbally Promise Things to Anyone about ANYTHING
Raise your hand if you got engaged on Friday! Did you know that Huff Post estimates that 6 MILLION couples became engaged on Valentine’s Day. Whew! That’s A LOT of proposals, you guys.
In honor of those 6 million happy couples, I’m here to share with you my Top 5 Things to Do Now That You’re Engaged!
1. Tell Your Peeps.
I know you’re thinking, “Duh, yeah, of course!”. And yes, duh. But, let’s talk about HOW you are telling your peeps. I called my Dad basically right after Bob the Builder proposed. And then called my four bridesmaids. Then I realized it was after midnight on the East Coast and had to wait until the morning to call my Mom, and Bob the Builders’ family. So, I called them in the morning. Then I got tired and lazy and decided just to change my Facebook status. I didn’t realize it then, but some of my friends were miffed that they had to hear about it on Facebook and not from me directly. So, consider your peeps. And consider that getting engaged is a big huge life thing, and it (probably) only happens once, and pick up the phone and call your nearest and dearest. Or go see them in person. Don’t just rely on the Book of Face. Which brings me to…